Note # 19

remember that you choose love. We can't choose love for others except for the love we feel for them. We choose love for ourselves and when we do others might choose to love us. 

Amid all hate, choose love. That is the best answer. 


Note # 17

Dear one, 

I tried three pieces of paper and nearly cried a few times trying to think of what to say. It is very easy here in this pretty little shop, across from a restaurant with people strolling by all dusted with snow. This is one of the easy moments. And so I could say, "it will be alright one day." I could tell you that one day the clouds will break for good, that you will be healed. I could tell you that the person you were made in the moment they whoever "they" is to you - that person you became in that moment will be bright and shiny again like a new penny. 

But I do not believe that. You are someone new now. 

You are someone new now. Someone who knows very intimately the wort things that can happen to a person and still here you are. You scared, holy, beautiful thing. The worst came for you. The monsters of the human heart came and tried to defeat you, they tried to make you small -- and whatever may have happened up until now, however many times you stumbled and may stumble still -- you are here. You are here. 

I know the silences in your heart when you remember, and when you try not to remember. I know what it sounds like when your tired heart whispers, "maybe I deserved this" when it wonders if the darkness has won. And so I know how loud all the sounds inside are when they refute well-meaning reassurances. 

You are changed. You carry with you now and always something larger and unfair. And sometimes it will feel like it is all you can do not to be crushed by it. So I won't say the things that are easy to say in pretty little bookstores in the daylight, when my heart is quite. I will tell you what I want to hear when I am alone and tired and boiling with rage in the dark -- rage at myself and at him. It is this

Somewhere in a room very much like the one you are in feeling things much like what you are feeling, I sit. Just as scared. Just as unsure, just as lost. And I am not giving up. Not because I am stronger or smarter or richer or less alone. I am not giving up because of you because one snowy Valentines Day, I sat in a pretty book store, and I promised you I would not. 

Let's kick all the monsters asses. The people who do this? They do it for control, because they are afraid. They took from us because they could not give. We will defeat them, by living. By letting our darkness live beside our light, by saying it out loud and letting the others who feel like we do know that it is possible. 

- rb 


Note # 13


Dear human being,

Please don’t forget how much you are truly worth. It’s easy to look at the world around you, the hardships, the sadness, the heartbreak and to find yourself thinking that it’s simply the way of the world. Please remember it is not. You are special. You have talents that the world and the people in your life need. You can make someone smile. You can make the world more beautiful. You can help someone feel happy. What a wonderful power we each possess.

Please don’t forget that you are worthwhile. You are worth kindness and patience.  You are worth love and happiness. There will be those who insist that you are not. That believe they are somehow, in unimaginable ways, better then you.  That you can be made to feel less than, but they are wrong. They seek to lift themselves up for selfish reasons and you deserve better, plain and simple.

Don’t forget that mistakes are human. If you find yourself lamenting the past, use your power to bring smiles to others in order to win back your feeling of being worthwhile. Humility and generous kindness can make the worst of us become great.

Don’t forget that I love you. We have never met but I know of your hardships and I love you for making it through them and for your perseverance. I love you for your potential. And I love you simply because you are a human.

Note # 12


Always remember that the things that happened to you and the circumstances you found yourself in DO NOT define you. I have infinite respect for women/children who find the courage to speak up against the oppression they face. Their voices give way to a far brighter future.

Notes # 2

The very fact that you have sought out help means you are a fighter. To endure what you have, I cannot image, but you are a survivor. Your strength is extraordinary. I have so much love and respect for you.

Note # 4




Hey, Girl

You got this. 

You have taken the first step toward greatness. 

Keep going. 

You are living your best life and we are cheering you on. 

In one year, one decade, one lifetime, you will marvel at the ground you have covered with your courage. 

When you look back on your triumphs, you will see us, Your Super Fans looking up to you. 

Thank you for being afraid and still walking toward the light. 

We love you and we need you. 

Keep going. 

We will see you on the other side, Sis. 


Lisa E. Sanchez 

Boise City Councilwoman and Case Coordinator/Paralegal for Idaho Volunteer Lawyers Program